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By Krista Magnifico, DVM, Special to Everyday Health
I hear it almost every day from people I meet in every walk of life and in every task of my daily routine. Head bowed, reluctant to uncover a scab still painful regardless of how much time has passed, as if they are about to make some confession too tragic to say aloud.
“I just loved that dog so much. There will never be another one like her.”
“I just don’t think I could love another dog like I loved her.”
The grief after a pet’s death is still fresh, and the despair is still tugging.
I always have the same advice. “There may never be another pet like D.C. was. She was a special girl in a special time of your life. That is the beauty of loving and knowing another soul. It is the magic of life. I know it is hard to believe at this time, but there are other souls out there — other pets who want to be loved and who will love you back. The real joy and great treasure is that for every pet you love, you get it back a thousand times over. I bet D.C. would want her memory to live on by you being happy with another pet again. Don’t you think?”
Love Has No Boundaries
I suppose it is a bit of apprehension, or reluctance to diminish one pet’s memory by trying to replace it with another. Or could it be self-appointed guilt that your heart and mind aren’t big enough to hold a place for another pet?
But love grows. It has no boundaries, nor replacements. It has a place and a time. But you can’t hold those, and you can’t freeze them to stay in the same spot, no matter how hard you try or how completely your sadness consumes you
When it comes to special pets, remember that your pet was your choosing from the start. At some point you saw something in them that you knew meant they were the one for you, just like every relationship. Some part of that encounter spoke to you, and from that point you learned and adapted to be the companion you both needed. You created the special relationship that it was.
My pups know that I am their dog-food-delivery person, treat-reward dispenser, playtime pal, chauffeur to work, nighttime TV couch cuddler, and wake-up on the bed for belly rubs person. I do all of that for them and in return, they stick to me as their bodyguard, chauffeur, and fun-time mom. They reward my life because I know I have a wonderful, silly, alarm-system family that makes me smile countless times a day.
My cats run to see me every time I return from a long, hard day at work, always excited to get their nightly head pat and hug. They are my 365-day-a-year reminder that the best part of every day is coming home. Bedtime is our quiet time for purrs and visits to the pillow for the evening catnap
What My Pets Mean to Me
Quite simply, my pets enrich my life every single day.
My pets are an integral, cherished, and vital chapter of this part of my life. We are lucky to have each other. We make each other who we are. For as long as we have this time together I will be grateful, protective, responsible, kind, generous, and not take a single moment for granted. I will likely outlive them, but that won’t stop us from building lifelong memories together.
When this time together comes to an end I will open my heart and home to another pair of dogs and clowder of cats. I also believe that those angels I have lost along my life’s path will be waiting for me someday — a whole pack of my life’s accumulation of furry kids to spend the rest of my eternity with.
Goodness, I hope there is one really big bed up there.
Krista Magnifico, DVM, is the founder and chief creative officer of Pawbly.com, overseeing creative vision and user experience. She earned her veterinary degree from the Virginia-Maryland Regional College of Veterinary Medicine in 2005, and has had her own practice in Northern Maryland since. She has a strong interest in animal welfare and educating and inspiring people to take better care of their companions. Follow her on Twitter @FreePetAdvice.
Last Updated: 6/19/2015
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